11 Tips To Unlocking Your Own Heart To Love
Love is the best thing that one can give and the sweetest thing that one can get. Yet why do people fear love? In reality, it is not love that people steer clear of but the fear of rejection and pain. People fear expressing love because love that is not reciprocated can be painful. What some people fail to realize is that true love does not expect anything in return. People love because they are designed to love.
According to some studies, 1 out of 3 people who have experienced heartbreak are more skeptical when it comes to gambling with their emotions. The taste of a broken heart, and the bitterness and pain make it difficult for someone to open up again and be vulnerable to loving once more.
Here are some of the steps that help in unlocking your heart to love:
- Acknowledge your need to love and be loved.
The first step to be in the zone is to acknowledge that you are in search of love and are ready to be loved. Acknowledgement is key. You cannot find love if you continue to deny it because even if it lands in front of you, you will fail to recognize it — and even if you recognize it, you will reject it.
- Forget the past.
If your previous relationships have failed, learn to move on and let go. As they say, there is a time to mourn and a time to be happy. Mishaps and heartbreaks happen to make people stronger and how you respond to such defines your destiny. You cannot always be a prisoner of a lonely past. Things happen for a reason. There are lessons to be learned and experiences to be made, so get up, dust yourself off and move on. Life is too short to keep dwelling in the past.
- Accept new beginnings.
Be prepared to venture into a new chapter of your life. You cannot get stuck in the same phase all the time. If you are looking at — and from — the same view for so long and doing the same routine, then you are doing it wrong. Change jobs if you must, relocate to a new apartment if you have to — just don’t get stuck in something that you are not happy with and complain about it for the rest of your life.
- Try new activities.
If you are happy with where you are and what you are doing, then stay put and just try out a new hobby. Having something new in life could perk you up and give you an adrenaline rush which makes you more open to love. New hobbies help you discover something new about yourself, too.
- Love yourself.
Do not expect to find love for yourself from another person. The first person that is responsible in loving you is you. You cannot expect others to love you if you do not find it in your heart to love yourself. You only have one self, body, and soul for the rest of this lifetime so you should take good care of yourself. When you find the right person, his or her love should just complement your love for yourself and not be the sole source of your love for yourself. You will never be capable of loving another soul if you cannot love yourself first. If you do it any other way, you will end up a total wreck if it does not work out.
- Be happy in your own skin.
People are attracted to others who are comfortable in their own shoes and who can laugh at their own flaws and imperfections. Remember, no one is perfect. Learn to forgive yourself and accept your flaws, and never let your insecurities get the best of you.
There is no other easier way to find love than to connect with other people — be it with friends, people from work, or the people in your neighborhood.
7. Remain open to possibilities.
Love can find you while you are tying your shoelaces on a busy street, while you are doing your groceries, or even when you are getting off the train. So always keep an open mind and believe that love will find you, even in the most unlikely of places and circumstances.
- Be approachable.
Being friendly opens a whole new door for you. It helps you connect with people that might interest you or are interested in you.
- Keep your cool while you wait.
Love cannot be rushed. Once you have decided that you are ready to love, it does not mean that it will come knocking on your door the next minute. It could take some time but you will know it when the right time comes. As they say, “Love comes to those who wait.”
Visualize yourself being surrounded with love. Fill your mind with thoughts about love and the universe will bring forth what your heart desires the most.
11. Be willing to accept love when it finds you.
When love finally finds you, embrace it. Rejoice in that experience. For as long as you keep your mind and spirit closed to the possibility of love, you will never be able to unlock your own heart to love. So, change your perspective and view love as a gift and a blessing.