Sticking To A Good Decision
To let go of someone is one of the biggest decisions in life that everyone has to make especially when the heart is already in an unbearable pain. It is never easy to say goodbye to a person who used to be a part of your life as you feel emptiness when you look forward without his or her company.
As the days pass by, you will experience missing the person more. This is what you call the “adjustment period.” During this transition, you will feel like going back and compromising whatever problems you have. This may not be a good idea at all because you know beforehand that you had enough reasons to let such person go and now you are letting your emotions drive you to being vulnerable again.
You often hear experts in love say that the fight for love is a bold act. It is, indeed. But what they won’t tell you is that not everyone you love so much deserves such fight because fighting for someone who is not supposed to be fought for will only lead to destroying yourself. According to Eckhart Tolle, “Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.”
If you know deep in your mind and heart that you did the right thing, then you should stick to your decision no matter what happens. To avoid yourself from changing your decisions from time to time, the following are helpful tips:
- Write – the moment you have had enough and decided to let go, write down different reasons that you have in mind. So whenever you have second thoughts in the coming days, you will have something that will remind you on why you have chosen to let go in the first place.
- Record a video – When you have this intense feeling of being wooed by a person, writing the reasons why you’ve let him go may not be enough for you to fight the feeling of coming back. Recording a video of you while in pain and expressing your heart out to the video might help you ease the pain.
- Seek the advice of reliable people – before you change your mind, make sure you have consulted other people who care so much about what you are going through.
- Keep yourself busy – by doing a lot of things, you will stop yourself from thinking so much about the sorrows of having lost someone that meant so much to you. Thus, avoiding you to overthink things and change your decisions.
Remember that God placed your mind above your heart for you to use it wisely. The overall goal in standing strong on what you have already decided and sticking to that decision you have made in the past is to have self-dignity. When you choose to let go, you will lose a person. But when you choose to love, prepare to be hurt along the way. Remember, love isn’t perfect. What is important is that you learn to love yourself first before loving another person.