Managing Failure By Looking At It Differently
Failure could be a barrier, or it could a propeller. If seen in a negative light, it will surely bring you down, but from a positive angle, it could mean opportunities. Managing failure is all about moving on from something you failed at by changing your perspective from negative to positive.
As Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
So, while failure may feel like a strong punch to your face, remember that that’s just it—a punch. Dwelling too much is a waste of time and energy, not to mention a health risk. People who believe they failed in their employment or relationships were reported to be more susceptible to depression, which has affected about 16 million adults in the US alone according to the National Institute of Mental Health.
It is high time to look at failures from a different angle, and while so many experts would make their suggestions for change sound so easy, be warned that it is not.
Changing perspectives requires strong will. You have to want to change the way you see things to be able to do so, and that means constantly telling yourself to take actions.
- Talk to yourself. Try standing in front of a mirror, commanding yourself to act; make sure to tell yourself things like:
- I am getting closer to my goals by focusing on my strengths.
- When I acknowledge the things I do right, I am able to be see so many opportunities.
- Make a list of errors, then throw it away. So you did something wrong, fine! Acknowledge it by listing it down. Read it once or twice while telling yourself that these are the things that did not work, so you need a better strategy. Then, throw the list away. That’s okay, you already know what you should not do next time.
- Forget the word ‘fail.’ Change the manner by which you refer to your failure; start by not using the words fail, failure, failing. Instead of saying ‘I failed in my relationship,’ say, ‘I figured out things that should not be done in relationships!’
- Find the good in the bad. Consciously work on finding the good side of situations. You were fired? That’s an opportunity to explore what it is you truly like and then practice it. Someone has broken up with you? That’s a chance to get to know other people. Be willful in searching for the silver lining.
The efforts you exert in constantly reminding yourself of what to do and in changing your perspective on purpose will be hard only at first, but as you do it regularly, it becomes a habit; it becomes part of how you think and of who you are; it becomes natural.
Failures are brick walls built not to make you give up, but to provide you with an opportunity to be creative and strategic, to make you think of the best way to get over it.
No one said that moving on from something at which you failed is easy, but changing your perspective from negative to positive will be your battery—it will keep you going.